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How to Communicate When You’re Angry

Have you ever been red-hot mad? So mad you couldn't see straight? We all have. And when we're angry, we tend to do one of three things- attack like a Bulldog, manipulate like a Fox, or withdraw like a Turtle. However, our unhealthy strategies destroy ...

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Just Try to Trigger Me

Conversations about controversial subjects can quickly turn violent- both in word and action. It's not easy to keep your cool, stay in the moment, and maintain your connection with the other person. When my progressive, Seattle-dwelling friend Kell ...

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After the Midterms

Today, conversations about politics with people on the other side of the aisle from you can be downright dangerous.  Some people would advise that we all just stick to the topic of the weather, reminiscent of Henry Higgins' advice to Eliza Dooli ...

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The Kavanaugh Crisis

Whenever a political crisis hits our nation, I immediately think of Kellie, my liberal friend in Seattle with whom I founded the Heart Perception Project after the tumultuous presidential election in 2016. I wonder what she's thinking, and I wonder if we ...

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Calling Out Racial Bias (Kindly)

Choose wisely. Sometimes we have days, even weeks, to anticipate the choices we will make in a difficult conversation.  Other times the opportunity is suddenly before us and we tiptoe trepidatiously into unknown waters.  The latter was the setting for K ...

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12 Upside-Down New Years Resolutions

Want to listen to this post? Click on the triangle in the audio bar below. I love New Year's Resolutions. Writing down my wide-eyed dreams for the next 365 days gives me great hope. But then, I hate New Year's Resolutions. Because around the middle of  ...

VIDEO: A Reading From The Christmas Song

On Christmas Eve, during the worship services at The Ascent Church, I read a piece from The Christmas Song, a musical I wrote for Brentwood-Benson in 2010.  I've posted the video below (thanks for my 8-year old son for being my videographer and my husband ...